Author Archives: Mary Stares

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Dear Friends,
I apologize for not writing an update for a few days. Time seems to get away from me, and the web editor is kind enough not to send me deadlines.

Steve_standing_rosebush_Oct25Abbot Steve took a walk in the yard this afternoon again today and spent some time talking to David, his old foreman. David and the crew that are here worked for Steve when he owned the landscape design company before Abbot Steve was "Abbot Steve." Currently they are working at the house doing extensive fence and other outdoor repairs.

In general, the process of this disease is continuing. Abbot Steve is requiring more and more in the way of pain control, and that affects his entire system.

Lane and Abbot Steve are on a very steep learning curve and are in consultation with a number of physicians in order to find a balance between the pain and the side effects that the medications cause.

Each day presents a slightly different challenge.

Abbot Steve continues to be extremely grateful for all the well wishes he receives and for the chanting that is being done on his behalf. He asks that all these be done not only with him in mind but to all those who are in need.

Thank you all so much for your kind thoughts,
mary

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Dear Friends,

Abbot Steve had a difficult day yesterday. He was struggling with pain, nausea and no appetite for much of the day. At one point we thought we might have to take him into the emergency room, but a phone call with the Kaiser advice nurse and increased meds led to a restful night.

Today is a different story. Abbot Steve has had little pain and has an appetite. Also, in the afternoon sun he took a walk in the back yard. He listened as a number of greetings from friends were read to him, and he enjoyed time with a couple of visitors. The oncologist has scheduled chemotherapy to begin Thursday, October 31, following completion of the course of antibiotics that has cleared up the cellulitis.

Lane specifically asked me to thank all of the people who have been sending cards and well wishes to them. Thanks also to those friends who have been bringing prepared food to the house. This has been a huge help, especially while many of Abbot Steve's family were here visiting.

During the last few weeks both Lane and I have read greetings and cards to Abbot Steve which have brought a smile to his face and light to his eyes even on difficult days. Thanks everyone  for your continued expressions of love and support.

Abbot Steve and mary

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Dear Friends,

October 20
October 20

I spoke with Abbot Steve late this morning. He reported that he will be discharged from hospital tomorrow. I did not speak with him for long, as he was surrounded by many members of his family today, including two siblings, in-laws, one of his children, and grandchildren. Abbot Steve's return home is really good news because he very much wants to go home. I will see him in the morning and send an update as I can with more information about his current condition and plans for treatment.

Yesterday Abbot Steve said, "It is three weeks tomorrow that I started my new life. I am learning things every day, which is good." That struck me as an astounding statement. I will just say that these last three weeks have been sobering and wondrous for me. I recognize what a gift Abbot Steve is, and I am trying my best to take care of that gift for the benefit of all beings.

mary